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Feeling on Edge

Monday can have that feeling.  But having not worked in well over a year perhaps I shouldn’t be feeling edgy.

I resumed my search for an NHS dentist.  There’s one who’ll see me at the end of next week.  If Oncobabe can’t fix me up, and she’s the one who wants me to see a dentist, I’ll have to go private.

My buttock is very sore.  Doubtless the cancer is growing.  I’m using more tramadol pills to ease it.  But trying to avoid driving with the drug in my system.

The over-50 life policy paperwork is coming in.  Much as I’ve enjoyed setting them up and watching my Topcashback balance grow, I now need to write the policies in trust to ensure they avoid inheritance tax.  I need to survive a year to make them worth anything of value.  Even after a year I don’t think the sum assured total is above £10k.  But if that can be made tax free that’s more in the pockets of loved ones facing into not having me around.  But the paperwork seems overwhelming.  A few months ago I’d have enjoyed completing it.

Pre-Oncobabe blood test was needed today too.  I tried out Halifax hospital for this and discovered a no wait service that puts Huddersfield infirmary phlebotomy to shame.  This also confirmed free parking for me as a cancer patient which I had thought was only appropriate at Huddersfield.  Now to discover if the results are there by tomorrow’s appointment with Oncobabe.

I’m trying to hold it all together at the moment and I think I’m succeeding.  But it’s tough.  There’s a temptation to just give up on life.  But too much of me still wants to enjoy it.

If You’ve Ever Been Kicked by a Horse ..

If You’ve Ever Been Kicked by a Horse ..

I suppose it’s obvious that while I continue to take osimertinib, the failing drug, my pain levels will increase.  I’m used to the ongoing niggles the illness shares with me.  Occasional pain radiating from where I assume tumours sit.  A bit of referred sciatic pain in my right leg.  And I’ve experience much worse pain in the months that preceded diagnosis as the disease rampaged unchecked through my body.

The final night of an Anglesey week that had me feeling as loved up as is humanly possible ended with a significant uptick in pain.  A small area of my pelvis started hurting like hell.  Tramadols, naproxen and paracetamol flew down my body to attack it.  But by morning I awoke with the feeling that a horse had kicked me very, very hard.

Watching Oldham, lose again, didn’t help with that feeling despite being joined by an old mate John who’d popped over from Melbourne to catch the match.  We had arranged to meet up in Adelaide for the Ashes but this illness caused me to cancel.

Last night the horse kick pain hit again.  Cancer pain loves the night and I’m now well and truly tramadolled up again to help manage the situation.

The problem with tramadol is that it can space me out a little bit.  But it’s milder than the morphine tablets I have and, for now, I rarely need them during the day.  So they can numb the pain.  Assist sleep.  And allow me to enjoy the daytime better.

I need to be on good form today.  I’m being introduced to Rachel’s eldest son.  She’s returning the compliment of last week’s birthday bash where I introduced my lovely range of natural and inherited offspring to her.  There’s a little trepidation that goes with meeting the kids it seems. A reminder of meeting my step children a quarter of a century ago.

Snapping up Life Assurance Policies

Snapping up Life Assurance Policies

With death and taxes being the certainties of life, I’ve been buying a series of over 50 life assurance policies this week.

For those in good health, this is a terrible idea.  For those with a terminal diagnosis but expecting to live for at least a year, fill your boots.  For me, where my life expectancy is now less than a year, it’s just a hobby to bag the gift cards and cashback issued with these policies.  They don’t ask any health questions!

It will also generate more paperwork for my sister.  These companies refund the premiums paid on death.  So survive six months with a £10 a month policy and she’s claiming £60.  But if I’ve already snagged a £75 M&S gift card I see that as good value for money.

I can also write some of these policies in trust.  That £60 left in a savings account would turn into £36 on death thanks to the nasty tax system.  Written it trust it retains its £60 value for those I care about,

Granted, this is only skirting around the fringes of the IHT bill I now expect my state to pay.  But if I do get through to my next birthday the returns for very little outlay start turning into £thousands.  Plus all those gift cards these companies give away up front.

It might seem an unusual thing to do, but it makes absolute sense financially.  Even if the gains are only likely to be the gift card values.  Something is better than nothing. More is better than less.  And this new addiction to life assurance will deliver more to those I care about.  Even if it’s only a little bit more.

The Bath in the Window

The Bath in the Window

To say the pampering continues would be an understatement.  I’d been promised a very special afternoon tea as a birthday treat.  You know the sort of thing, crustless sandwiches, quiche, scones and cream, a series of cakes and, of course, endless tea from a china tea pot.  And it was delivered with the anticipated quality at Chateau Rhianfa, overlooking the Menai Strait.

Before we departed, I was told to pack for the night.  Here we are, on holiday, and a mini-break seems to have been inserted into the week!  So drugs, pyjamas and a change of undies flew into an overnight bag and we headed to the Chateau.

The setting and the afternoon tea were a joy.  But then came the room.  We ignored the onsite hot tub to relax in our generously sized suite, and gradually finish off the remains of the huge afternoon tea that had been kindly boxed up for us.

The standout feature of the room was in the window.  A bath!  While I pondered the view available to telescope users on Bangor Pier, Rachel closed the curtains, dimmed the lights and ran the bath for me.

Entering and exiting the bath was a challenge for my feeble bones.  But once in, the relaxing joy of the water matched to the ambience of the room worked wonderfully, helping to minimise those unpleasant twinges in my pelvis.

Then sleep.  And a freshly cooked Welsh breakfast.  Which was, oddly enough, identical to an English breakfast.  None of that buffet nonsense.  This was straight from the pan.  And very welcome.

It’s fair to say the good lady surpassed herself with this treat.  Now back to my sister’s gaff.  And more hot tub time.

Pampered – But I Can Feel My Cancer

Pampered – But I Can Feel My Cancer

I’ve been well and truly looked after by Rachel since we got to Anglesey.  I think I’ve only made one cup of tea since we got here.  Everything else has been brought to me.  Not least the wines and whisky that made the journey with us.

And today will be no different.  Afternoon tea at a decent tea shop has been promised.

Despite some extraordinary winds, the hot tub has been well use.  Prosecco a favourite for this location.  And again, while I am capable of unclipping the lid and then securing it after use, Rachel has stepped in and done this for us every time.

She did have the cheek to beat me at Scrabble yesterday as those winds and rain forced us back inside.  I’m blaming the wine for impeding my thought process.

There is a problem to consider.  I can clearly feel something throbbing on my pelvis and it isn’t fun.  I’m still taking the osimertinib but now know that what Oncobabe saw on my scans, new spread of the disease, is real enough.  Any last hopes of a clinical error about the progress of this illness gone.

As before, it tends to come out late afternoon and hangs around into the night.  Small at present.  Irritating always.  Very painful on occasions.  Pulsing into my bone, presumably in time to my heartbeat, nibbling away.

When I see my radiotherapist Frank (I’ve named him after Frank Zappa) it won’t be hard for me to point to where it hurts most.  And invite him to blitz the area if he can.

Meanwhile,  the T7 verterbrae was the focus of some of the early spread of my disease in 2016.  And identified on my recent scan as being home to a revitalised tumour.  I think I can feel it.  Not in a painful way.  But a very slight stiffness.  Maybe psychosomatic.  Maybe real.  Whatever the truth, I’m becoming very aware of this disease doing its worst again.  And this time the conventional treatments left will only delay that progress a little.

So I enjoy life while I can.  I embrace being pampered by an exceptional lady who is full of so much warmth and affection for me.  And, despite everything, know I’m the luckiest man alive.

Bringing Up the Half Century

Bringing Up the Half Century

I turned fifty on Sunday. And, to stem off prospects of somebody throwing a surprise party and in recognition of the expectation that this will be my last birthday of significance, I invited the kids, nephews and a couple of friends to a lunch at the Milan Bar in Lees.

A bit of private dining. Welcomed by a VIP lane. A bit like flying business class.

The food was great. It was lovely to get this group of people who mean so much to me together in one room and also to introduce them to Rachel. And, of course, to extract presents from them. Wine and whisky well received ahead of a winter escape to Anglesey for a week of rest and hot tub.

Seeing the three kids together again was moving. Admiring how they broke the ice with younger cousins that they may not have seen in a decade. The outrageous cake from my sister. But all in all an informal gathering that just made me feel loved.

In 1900 the average age at death was 47. So I’ve outdone them. And while I’d like to enjoy more moments like Sunday, the fact they all made the time to come made me happy. I think it was the dessert list on the menu that tipped the balance on a 100% invite to attendance ratio.

It all meant a lot to me. They all mean a lot to me. And while I know my illness affects them all, I hope they all know how loved they are and I hope that helps them handle things.

I Don’t Want to Deal With Stuff

I Don’t Want to Deal With Stuff

Two moments in recent days have left me feeling defeated.  The first was being told that my decision not to seek dental treatment while on Zometa was flawed.  There’s a risk of infection in the giant cavity that opened up when a rogue Toffee Crisp removed the filling.

I think I wanted Oncobabe to refer me to the hospital’s dentist.  I never got around to changing dentists when I moved and being given a terminal diagnosis didn’t encourage me to try any harder.

But I was sent away with instructions to sort myself out.  And I promptly got home and forgot.  Friday was a tough day too, and my continued amnesia on dental matters, while not a good idea, was a reality.

Now I wake up and find a note telling me that somebody has crashed into my car while I slept.  Granted, there’s snow and ice on the road.  I’ve not inspected the damage yet.  Hopefully the car is still secure and capable of getting over to Oldham and Anglesey tomorrow.

But I feel utterly defeated by these two moments.  I don’t want the hassle of sorting out dentistry.  And kudos to the chap who drove into my car for shoving a note of admission through the door, but I really don’t want to have to deal with an insurance claim again.  Lose my car for a week.  Turning up at hospitals in courtesy cars.

Its not a good sign.  In the great scheme of things these things are minor.  But I really could do without this shit right now.

My Date With Oncopooj

My Date With Oncopooj

Today was clinical trial meeting day.  Dr Pooja (also known as Dr Jain) had invited me over to the once seen on reality TV “St Jimmys” hospital in Leeds.

Louise, my stepdaughter, made her way over the Pennines in her new Peugeot and, after a battle to find friction with the icy road, we departed to Leeds.

My sister joined us there after a nuisance of a train journey designed to advertise how the “Northern Powerhouse” plans that usually get cancelled to fund London based transport schemes should actually get a justified investment of taxpayers’ cash.

The large multi-storey car park at the hospital drew us towards disabled parking spaces but, alas, we discovered that most of the hospital’s target market have a disabled badge and ended up miles away from the entrance in a normal space.

On arrival, we were taken into a room by Wendy, who I assume is a nurse, who took responsibility for  reading consent forms and disclaimers.  It seems I have now given permission for them to share my blood and 2016 biopsies with Cancer Research UK.  Given the guarantee of death for declining to do so, I grabbed the pen and signed.

Although I’d advised Louise that this process could be brutal, she wasn’t prepared for the news that only 5%-7% of patients who get to this stage will receive any treatment with experimental drugs.  My likely departure is tough on a lot of people, but most of all my kids.

Eventually we were called in to meet Oncopooj who introduced us to two other people in the room.  I’ve still no idea who they were, but will assume I’ve assisted with their medical training.

Oncopooj commented on my palsy, recapped my recent medical history and clarified a few pieces of information.  What did come out was that I’d need a blood test as I’d had no recent biopsy.  My original 2016 NHS biopsy would also work its way down to the Royal Marsden hospital for testing.  And, although I’d previously been told my BUPA funded spinal biopsy was useless, there was a promise to request the tissue from that anyway.

The conversation revealed Oncobabe had told them I didn’t need a new biopsy for her treatment.  But it became clear that a new biopsy would help them determine more effectively if I am suitable to join the trial.  That triggers something for discussion in my next meeting with Oncobabe.  Oncopooj wasn’t going to offer to collect one herself.

That, and a long wait for yet another blood test, pretty much concluded the meeting. A couple of months before I find out if I’m accepted for trials.  I had a 2% chance of afatinib.  60% chance of osimertinib.  Now a 5-7% chance of wonder drug three, or a placebo.  I’d rather not get the placebo.

It’s a long shot.  But the number, while low, is not statistically irrelevant.  And even if accepted, the idea of years of extra life is probably beyond these new treatments.

At the very least, I’m now a statistical contributor to an important medical study.  It might, in a few years, be responsible for saving your life.  Or the life of one of your children.  I’d love to say that’s my reason for attendance.  But no, that’s the consolation prize for if my efforts at self preservation fail.

Why a Much Needed Takeover Makes Me Incredibly Sad

Why a Much Needed Takeover Makes Me Incredibly Sad

In the shadow of two of the planet’s biggest football clubs lies Oldham Athletic.  Next to the hospital where my son Chris was born.

As the mid-wifery team whisked his mum away for a post natal shower, I was left with the young chap in my arms for the first time.  Slightly scared of the responsibilities ahead.  Love welling up inside me alongside that natural fear of dropping him.

As I became more confident holding him, we wandered over to the window and looked down Sheepfoot Lane to Boundary Park football stadium.  I held him aloft, almost like the FA Cup, to show him what a football ground looks like for the very fist time.

I’m not sure the vision quite registered with a babe less than half an hour old.  But it’s a location we eventually made our key “lad and Dad” point as the years progressed.  He was a ball boy as Latics defeated Liverpool in the FA Cup.  Sat beside me at Goodison Park days after my tonsillectomy, witnessing a stunning 1-0 win.  And witnessed numerous 0-1 defeats as the years rolled by.

For his whole life Oldham Athletic have played in the same division.  Most of it in the bottom half of that division.   He’s attended a single play-off season and numerous relegation scrape seasons.  But never a promotion or relegation.  Yet we seem to love it.  The disappointment, frustration and occasional moments of unparalleled joy.

It’s a club that needs new ownership.  The existing man either doesn’t have the funds to bankroll the club or the will to do it.  And for the last few months a Dubai based Morrocan businessman has been in talks about taking it over.

Today an announcement that subject to dotting a few I and crossing a few T bits of paperwork the takeover is nearly done.

Although nobody seems to know how wealthy Mr Abdallah is he seems to offer new hope to long suffering Oldham Athletic supporters.  Perhaps a decade of glory lies ahead.  And I really hope it does.

And then it happened.  The tears flowed freely.  Not tears of joy, but tears of anguish. I’m going to miss out on this revolution in Oldham Athletic’s fortunes.  I won’t be able to share the good times with Chris.  In spirit perhaps.  The best news for the football club in years having a surprisingly negative emotional impact on me.

Geanted, I’m over that now.  I hope the Decade of Glory is about to commence.  But I’m rather frustrated I’m going to miss it.

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